Those are some great questions and they bring up the subtleties of
Indonesian language which is pretty easy to learn. It is wise to err on the
side of politeness but better to get the proper pronoun for the situation.

Here is a (non-exhaustive) list of some more pronouns that one might
consider using: http://truevis.com/indon/javaaddress.html

On Sun, Jul 10, 2011 at 8:21 PM, David Goldsworthy <[log in to unmask]>wrote:

> ...
> SCENARIO 1:
>  (a fellow customer at a warung (eating stall) in town.
>
> Ari Wahyuni, male, 22 y.o.
>
> "You're sitting next to each other on a bench with other customers, eating
> your meals. He is neatly dressed, and looks like an office worker. He asks
> you
> a polite small talk question, and you reply and ask him something too.
>
> YOUR CHOICE:"________________________ "
>
> [e.g. to say "Have YOU...? // Did YOU...?"...